Ive been with my fiance for 3 years now & we were in the middle of planning a wedding when I just found out 4 weeks ago that Im pregnant. We told our parents & they were happy & surprised. My fiance & I discussed whether or not we will have a little quick wedding with just us before the baby is born or have the baby & proceed with our original wedding as planned sometime when we can afford a bigger wedding. But, here is the thing – we havent discussed any of this with my fiances mother, just the baby news & me being pregnant. So, as far as she knows, we never said we were going to go get married right now. I feel like she is the religious type who wont say so, but thinks down on us having a baby out of wedlock (hello! it’s 2009!! times have changed!) and I checked my email tonight & she sent me a link to a plus sized wedding gown that she said “she thought I would look beautiful in” Half of me is like thanks for thinking of me, but the other half is offended because is she trying to hint for us to get married right now? And Im only 8 weeks pregnant so Im not that plus sized, that was a little ballsy of her as well. I just feel like we are grown adults, he’s 32 & Im 29 & we can make our own decisions. What do you all think of her doing this? Thoughtful or rude??
To Miss G:
Wow, you are very judgemental aren’t you? I personally dont care what other people do with their lives to give it a second thought. I don’t care what other people think either. My main focus is the health of my baby. Whether we decide to marry now or later after the baby is born, is our decision – not my fiances mother or anyone else. We are the ones living our lives & a piece of paper isnt going to change anything. It’s the fact that we never discussed our wedding plans after the pregnancy w/ her that she assumes & emails me an ugly dress that we will do what she considers the “right thing to do” that annoys me. I can see if I asked for her help, advice, opinion or even told her we were planning on getting married now, but she is being pushy in my opinion & doing it in a way where I cant really act mad other then ignore her & nip it in the bud if she keeps mentioning any wedding plans & tell her that my fiance & I will decide what we want to do & whats best for us.
